Is declining a takeback request rude?

I played a 3 minute game and the position was equal with both of us low on time. I had around 40 seconds and he had like 20.

He then blundered and would have lost a piece because of a pin on the next move. He requested to a takeback after I made my move.

I didn't answer the takeback and instead waited for his next move. He lost on time and started to tell me that I'm rude and insulted me in various ways, which was funny because I was supposed to be the rude guy according to him. Probably he was mad that I didn't decline or accept the takeback which cost him some seconds.
I will never understand how someone can get so mad about a blitz game.

My opinion is that if a player blunders he has to deal with the consequences. Maybe if it was an obvious mouseslip where my opponent just misses the right square by one then I would grant a takeback. He was already lost after the blunder.

In general, I don't see much sense in having a feature like taking back moves. We play so many games here on lichess, that it hardly matters whether you lose a game once in a while.

What is your opinion on that topic?

@TacTicIsTicTac My opinion, of course...
Finger slips have been part of chess for centuries. People did not get a takeback then and should not now. You were not being rude.
Set takebacks to "Never" in your preferences and people will not even be able to request a takeback.

@TacTicIsTicTac what do you think about my petition (lichess.org/forum/lichess-feedback/petition-for-detailed-takeback-settings)? Would you use this hypothetical setting?

Its not, its a mouse-slip it just sucks. It happens to everyone eventually. Although for the future setting takebacks to never would help avoid this problem

It's actually very rude to ASK for a takeback.
The takeback option is there as an "offer". If you think your opponent mouse-slipped you can offer them takeback if you like.

I do not think it is rude but sometimes it is more interesting to accept after obvious mouseslips. Or even a few times when my opponents blundered their queen by playing very fast openings. In those cases, I usually accept for the sake of playing a good game.

@Demonolith That's my stance, too. If it's obvious that it was a mouseslip I would grant a takeback, because it doesn't make sense to play a chess game with a whole queen up.

But if my opponent blunders in the heat of battle like in my case, I don't see any point in granting a takeback, because the clock is part of the game and blundering when low on time is a situation that can occur a lot more than losing a queen in the opening because of a mouseslip.

@brochess It's an interesting idea. When I'm playing in my chess club blitz tournaments I always grant my opponents a takeback if they blunder a piece in one move. After all we both want to learn something and it's just a bad experience for both of us playing with a clear material advantage.

It's just annoys me when I get spammed with requests. Same with rematches. I decline and they just offer rematch again and again + insults.

Just disable the takebacks. I think it's rude to ask for one. Even if it's a misclick, that's a mistake like any other. A slip of the mind is not much different than a slip of the finger.

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