Is there any ways that we could adopt Silmans Idea to reassess our chess game?

I've went through the How to reassess your chess. As some of you pointed out in the forum, it would be better to apply it to my own games. However, I often find it difficult to find out a plan in equal games

( like bowdler attack, which in one game costs me tons of time to get advantage after 30+moves and forced to get a draw because of time)

As always, specific examples are greatly preferred to generalities.